Online Message Transcript
Me: I can't believe you put up a picture like that...either you're really fun to hang out with, or you're a complete dork. Whatever it is, I'm curious enough to find out :p
Her: lol you are so funny and i love your energy! my name is *** by the way.
Me: Haha thanks ***. Looks like we both have being silly, fun and smart in common.
I see we both are rarely on this site. If you're interested in talking let me know a number I can text or call you on. You're too fun to get away.
**my name**
p.s. do you really do power walks? lolz
Her: lmao.... yes... 240 ***-**** please dont make me block you..lol
Me: lol only if you promise not to fall in love with me :p
I'll be busy this weekend but will hit you up when I get a chance.
Phone Game
My typical ammo for online dates is to go for the date through text, since it saves time. If she’s not up for it, then I call her up and build comfort over the phone.
She would text back, but flake or ignore my texts whenever I suggested a date. I called her up and talked to her for 5 minutes. Made plans to hang out and she was more down. Tried setting up a drink date in DC, she still backed out. I talk to her on the phone again, this time for 15 minutes. Found out going to DC doesn’t work too well for her, made plans to do drinks in Bethesda, right outside of DC.
At this point I get annoyed with the fatties from online, and I boycott online game while I work on my lifestyle and modeling game. I don’t hit her up till 2 months later.
I figure she might wonder why the fuck I took so long to hit her up, and might not be down and make me have to rebuild comfort. I text her telling her I just came back to the country from Africa (lie) and it works.
Me: Hey punk! I'm back in the country, what's good? 7:49 PM
She calls me and we talk but I’m outside and it’s too loud so I text her
Me: Let me know what you're up to tomorrow, maybe we can grab drinks and tell you about my African adventures 7:54 PM
Asian Girl: Ok 7:54 PM
Asian Girl: O and bring pics when we do meet. :-D 7:55 PM
Me: haha don't have the pics with, my brother has the camera, in due time 7:56 PM
Asian Girl: :-( 7:57 PM
Me: Cheer up chica! Bethesda 630? 8:02 PM
Asian Girl: Ok 8:06 PM
Me: Bring your sexy potato bag (call back humor) ms. all I text is ok :p 8:15 PM
Asian Girl: Lol okay ;-) 8:16 PM
I end up taking a rain check to go on a date with the Spanish teacher on Monday, and reschedule her for
Tuesday
Me: Hey there, hate to do this, can we raincheck for tmrw, something came up... 2:21 PM
Asian Girl: Okay... :-( 2:22 PM
Me: :( ok 2:31 PM
Drink Date
The plan was to meet for drinks at 630pm, just in time for happy hour drink specials. Once again, my date is late and arrives at 7pm and we miss the happy hour specials.
I meet her inside the restaurant, and we go sit by the bar. We order Coronas and talk. After a while she suggests we split food…normally I don’t like the idea, but I thought it might be a good thing, especially if she was splitting the bill.
She mentions that she used to date a guy from Cameroon…I think to myself, another BBC lover! It seems the girls outside of my race that are receptive to me, are because of having dated other black guys in the past. At first I didn’t like it, because in a way, I want to know I got a girl because of my game, not because she loves black guys. It makes it seem like I could have ran the corniest game ever and still have got her. I would rather run game on a girl that has never dated a brotha, have my game be so tight that I become her first black guy. But after thinking about, a girl is a girl, and I should just take any that are into me, and be grateful.
We talk about our goals and business, since we shared that commonality. She’s into real estate and finds out I live in the rich part of Maryland…I see an attraction switch go off in her head…I don’t tell her that it’s with my parents.
We were talking about our worst online dates, and I talked about the fat black gold digger bitch. I said she wanted me to get her everything on the menu, and when we were hooking up, I found a Chic-fil-A wrapper on the floor, and she confessed she just had Chic-fil-A before our date. This would turn out to have great influence on the date.
When we were getting ready to pay, she willingly suggests that we can split the bill, she doesn’t want to be a gold digger like the fat black girl. I laugh to myself…that’s rare for online dates, I think I just stumbled upon a new routine. I qualify and frame going dutch by talking about a previous date that was a gold digger and tried to get me to pay for everything on the menu.
When leaving the bar I try to link arms with her like I normally do when leaving the bar with my dates and she’s not really up for it. I don’t force it and we head to the Barnes and Nobles nearby and browse the business book section.
After a while she has to leave because she has an exam tomorrow at school. While ending the date she asks if I liked the date with her, I tell her it was alright. She’s been texting me for a couple of days now asking about book recommendations after our date.
Takeaways
Frame Gold Digging – Talk about previous date I had that was a gold digger, and it will prequalify and frame her to want to go dutch and split the bill.
Book Store Bounces Good – Bouncing to a book store after a date is also a good idea for me, especially now since it’s cold outside and making out on benches is not so ideal. I could take them to the sex book section like I did with the German Au Pair last year.
Improvements – Could once again, have made the conversation more sexual despite her being reserved
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